Friendship Memories

Is there truly a shallow personality? Is everyone just actors, playing their roles, never showing the outside world their true self? The thing that strikes me the most sometimes is how different a first impression can be. After staying at Albert house for more than half a year now, i sometimes recall some of the first impressions of the people around me, especially those i am particularly close to. I suppose that given time, people will loosen up, and present to the people around them some layers previously hidden.

The reason i am talking about all this is i like to befriend those "deep" people, who really contemplate things going on with their lives. Its fun to have friends that have many layers, and so talking to them always yields interesting discussions, and they never really run out of things to say. I find that these people are the most enriching ones, and to have friends like these will invariaby lead you to become deeper also. They make you think as well. One of the fun parts about making friends is comparing the first impression to the memories you have of him/her now. I like the concept of how in the beginning this person is a blank in your mind, and now, after some time, when the person is mentioned, a variety of thoughts pops up. So if the more of these 'experiences' of your friend there are, the better you know him/her, right?

But then there are people who somehow 'stops' growth, some of them friends of mine. And i find that frustrating. I seems to me weird that someone should just stop developing their personality. I mean people have to absorb the external stimuli and react to it, right? And since no day is the same, there should be something new everyday, to let people grow, right? Or maybe they are just hiding the interior. I suppose i can't really blame people for not revealing their true self to the world. It really isn't any of my business. I'm just ranting because i don't want to think of any of my friends as a shallow person.